I must be the only Indian mother in the world to advise her daughters never to get married. EVER. Everyone laughs when I say this. Indian mothers are notoriously obsessed with the nuptials of their sons and daughters. I must be joking when I advise against it. I must have had a fight with my husband, you all snicker.
But I say it in earnest. Marriage has nothing exceptional to offer a woman in the 21st century. Even today, the institution continues to follow age-old patriarchal values that place the financial, physical, emotional and social needs of the husband above the wife’s.
It’s still the woman who changes her name, leaves her home, adapts to a new family, becomes the default in-charge of the housekeeping, social relationship-building, elderly care and childcare, and gives up her job when the babies are born. Indian girls have new aspirations to step out of the home, work and fly, but Indian boys still expect someone to make them tea and ensure that their clothes are laundered.
Essentially, marriage reduces a woman’s power and increases her responsibilities.
If you’re lucky, you find a husband who is loving, caring and mindful of your needs, though he has no special obligation to. People urge you to be thankful for your blessings as if it’s a precious gift only a few can possess. If you’re unlucky, you’re insulted, criticised, disregarded and ignored, or beaten, raped and treated like a punching bag. People say it’s a domestic issue and tell you to ‘adjust’.
Most Indian marriages, however, are somewhere in the middle. How good or bad they are is irrelevant. Marriage is a prerequisite to living, like roti-kapda-makaan-shaadi.
Till a few decades ago, marriage – for women especially – meant security, social acceptability, a source of income, children, and a companion in old age, all of which were worth the effort. These days, however, women can very well have all of these while single. So what do they need the burden of a husband for?
As someone who’s been twice married, you may consider me an authority on this matter. Both my marriages were poles apart. One was arranged; the other is of my own choice. One was a prison sentence; the other was liberation. One was a hell of fear and hate; the other was a paradise of love and desire. One left me broken, bruised and powerless; the other has given me wings, healed and nurtured me. Both led to my spiritual development. Both helped me to introspect and find myself.
But here’s the thing: you don’t need marriage to do that. Not anymore.
Yes, my husband today is a good man and my best friend. But we both agree that being married has not added anything to our relationship except for social sanction, which was a big deal for my generation. But it doesn’t have to be for yours.
What I’ve learnt about marriage (a happy one or an unhappy one) is that it’s never about the other person, it’s about you. Every day is a new journey into yourself, your own insecurities, fears, social anxieties, and suppressed pains and triggers. Marriage certainly isn’t going to cure them. You still have to do the spiritual self-work yourself — in addition to someone else’s housekeeping and laundry.
Men can be amazing lovers, wonderful companions and they are very useful for sex. But you don’t need to marry them to enjoy them. Claim your freedom, respect and desires. Let the guy earn you every single day. Men are best behaved on their toes.
I secretly long for the day when a whole generation of Indian women will reject this outmoded institution in favour of meaningful, equal relationships. That’s when entitled Indian men will change. That’s when society will evolve and we will #SmashThePatriarchy. Till then, have one lover or several, have kids, have pets, run a house, run a company, follow your dreams, fall in love. Just don’t get married.
Update, 2.24 pm: My husband says he has nothing to do with this article. Please stop messaging him your condolences. (But he does hope all boys who planned to propose to our daughters read this.)
Update, 25 August 2020: I changed the lead photo because the original one only showed one of my daughters. Here is me with both of them. And the back story and retrospective of this article is here.
First published in eShe’s March 2019 issue. Read this article in Hindi here.
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A lopsided view of marriage ! Kerala has a matriarchal system, has it solved the problems? Spewing venom against the opposite sex who happen to be your father’s, brothers, friends, partners etc is totally uncalled for. I can cite any number of instances of married couples where the man is honest, hardworking, responsible etc but the woman is irresponsible, egoistic, selfish etc. The author has only betrayed her foolishness. Her views need not be taken seriously !
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.. In India, women have the choice if she wants to deliver 1 – 2 children but an average Ismalic women delivers 3- 4 kids and no choice given to her.
Her life just goes around her kids and noone else to takecare of her kids. Wheras a Man has multiple wives
They dont have any restrictions
Ms. Author dont teach our young girls to be selfish.
If every women has a selfish and corrupt mind like you for not getting married, then after few years who will guard our borders?? Who will take care of your house?? Then you will not be able to write freely like now coz if such selfish ladies keep talking such stupid than very soon no son/ daughter will be available for safety of our homes/country. Then may be our daughter now will be forced to change their religion to Islam ( one man with multiple wives)
I think that will he acceptable to you then.
Your blog should be ” Indian women get married and if need be try to do something for the society/ country” Teach you son to respect women and help their wife in household chores.
Teach your daughter to be strong enough and learn to fight in adverse condition also. If need be ” Fight like Jhaasi ki rani” and serve the man kind and humanity.
Dont run away from your problems…but rather if nothing else atleast give a wonderful individial to the nation rather than running away from the problems
– Wife of an Army officer
( If we teach our daughters this then noone will protect our borders or the country you live in)
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Applause madam, well said☺️
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True this article writer should have born in mafia countries or other religions then she would have realized Indian women’s have more freedom in present generation.. This article by writer is all about gender discrimination and women centric than gender neutral . Such writer should be banned.
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Vhnn
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Firstly this message should be in general, why only “Indian” women?
I think Indian women are better and happier than any other women in the world.
DO YOU KNOW THE CONDITION OF ARABIC / ISLAMIC WOMEN???
– ONE MAN HAS MULTIPLE WIVES
– RELIGION IS BEEN FORCED ON THEM
– THEY CANT GO OUT WITHOUT BURKA
– THEY CANT GO TO PRAY ON MOSQUE LIKE WE GO IN TEMPLE
– THEY ARE FORCED TO FAST IN RAMADAN
– CANT WEAR SHORT DRESSES OR ROAM AROUND LATE NIGHT WITH FRIENDS AFTER MARRIAGE
THE LIST CAN GO ON AND ON
IF YOU SEE THE DEVELOPED NATIONS LIKE AMERICA
– RAPE CASES/ DIVORCE AND STRESS IS THE HIGEST IN THE WORLD.
– NO FAMILY STRUCTURE
( I PERSONALLY HAVE A FRIEND WHOS MOTHER IS WITH SOME OTHER MAN AND FATHER MARRIED TO A DIFFERENT WOMEN. ” IMAGINE THE PLIGHT OF THAT CHILD” WHOM WILL SHE DISCUSS HER SORROWS? WHOM WILL SHE LOOK FORWARD TO IF NEED BE??
– NO RESPECT FOR WOMEN
DONT JUST RIGHT ANYTHING ABOUT INDIAN WOMEN WITHOUT KNOWING THE FACT!!
THE FACT THAT YOU CAN RIGHT HERE ON SOCIAL MEDIA ITSELF SHOWS THAT YOU HAVE FREEDOM TO SAY ANYTHING ABOUT THEM AND SOCIETY WOULDNT OBJECT.
YOU CANT DARE TO RIGHT SUCH THINGS FOR ISLAMIC WOMEN!!
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True
This is like destroying the social structure of India
Atleast we are not forced to deliver 3- 4 kids.
In Islam, if you see the average lady will have minimum 3 – 4 kids.. Her life just goes around her kids and noone to takecare. Wheras a Man has multiple wives.
Atleast Indian women doesnt have to go through all this.
We are better off than the condition of other women in the world
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Rightly said. This author is feminist.
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Nothing like this goes on….. Take proper review of things first …..
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I can’t tell u in my words which I am feeling right now after reading this.. I become more powerful n feel strong after knowing so much. Thank you for motivating us… ♥️♥️
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Dear Son, dont get Married!
That was what advices I got from several mothers, already after seeing so many lives miserably gone wrong over the time, whose fault? Believe me no one laughs when this is being told, no they aren’t notorious mothers who wants their sons to go for live-in or marriage less life.
What only if there were only nights without a daylight. Men were culprits since long, and are now too, but somehow power pandulum has shifted to make women more popular. Certainly any hope of bringing equality is in vain as habitually in the world ever more powerful speces have dictated terms.
What does it add to men in 21st century to get married except additional responsibility, even in the new age same rituals add the financial, social, emotional, physical dependencies of women before men.
Marriage adds double power to both but bitter sad truth is it doesn’t particulate in reality. What affects is personal trait which is not gender specific anymore. Why don’t we teach our daughters to look for partner who understands the gap, who believes that he has 4 parents, who believes in mutual understanding. Putting those values before financial status or material possession.
Fact is Indian men are changing for better as much as women are changing for worse. So much fuss and equality is still missing. Such an example you have your husband supports you as you said in article, rather being positive you still have done no wonder in bashing men.
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The very meaning and purpose of ‘Marriage’ is twisted here. Marriage has got little to do with your own fun & ‘enjoy the life’ but is a ‘responsibility’ towards society and more so towards next generation so that future population could get a secured & healthy environment to grow up. You have grown comfortably and now could preach your own thoughts because your parents got married in time. Your aim in getting married should not be just to love & have sex with men. Future world expects much more from you to derive out of your marriage. And as a responsible citizen, its your duty to the society.
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Excellent…. My comments are same.
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Super Duper proud of you to write this. We need more women like you to be open.
Dont let this negatives comments make you feel demotivated.
Best part for me id when you said:
I secretly long for the day when a whole generation of Indian women will reject this outmoded institution in favour of meaningful, equal relationships. That’s when entitled Indian men will change. That’s when society will evolve and we will
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Pls people she said its an advice. She is not forcing ger daughter into it. You take or leave it is her daughters choice. What wrong did she do in giving an advice. You are all so chained in what people will say what they will think that you forget that the same society or people dont come to your aid when u need . You earn becoz u work the society has no role whatsoever. Pls stop living in the 15th century.
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Amazing ma’am………love it and couldn’t agree more.
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If you feel so strongly about this then why did you not take your own advice and not marry??
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Because she wrote after experiencing marriage . If she wrote this without getting married annoyed people like you would have said.:
How can you write this you are not even married.
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These kind of mothers only make their daughters life hell. They are the front runners for filling false DV, 498A, maintenance cases. You are breaking an institution while you don’t have any other solid alternative. You want your daughters to be waiting for the next pick up guy at the bar, like the most of the western women, please talk to some of the ladies who have chosen this path in west and get their thoughts, If you are lucky they will tell you the truth.
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I am a married “western woman,” and have never been to a bar. Drinking culture doesn’t appeal to me. Some women go to bars because they choose to, and people who hook up in bars do so for one-night stands and flings. Statistically, most married people met their future partners through their social networks (friends, family). Many meet at university. I prefer that I could choose the person I want to spend my life with over being forced to marry some guy I don’t like who’s probably old enough to be my father and maybe mistreats me.
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I couldn’t agree more with your article. I have one son and my advice to him will be the same. My opinion is that happiness is the key to life and marriage somehow stifles it. I fully believe in live-in relationships, having children, and living life in your own terms not comprising everything at every step of your life. If your live-in partner and you have many difference and are no longer compatible, either can just walk out without any taboo attached or the fear of a marriage being broken.
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You are the kind of person who are destroying the society by breaking the smallest building block of society The Family by Hypergamy
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This from a lady who herself has been married twice, really? This advise is I believe for the independent women in india who would like to fend for themselves and live on their own terms. That being the case each one of them I assume has the intellect to make a choice whether to marry or live in or whatever else (given the variety of options out there these days). The world is trying to ape India in terms of its traditions of staying together and committing to the values of family be it elders, children or spouse. So best for the so called elders in India to at least not belittle our traditions owing to their own sour experiences and let the nex gen apply their own head and heart in making key life decisions.
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Rubbish… article… marriage is a bonding between two unknown people it needs only understanding and cooperation..not necessarily every people go through same experience of yours.
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You are not the only one, I am on the same line. Completely agree with you. This social conditioning needs to go now. Marriage really does nothing to enhance your life rather increase you workload, pressure of expectations of others and trims down your flight. Even I don’t dream marriage for my daughter and even son too. Just want them to fly high and free and get married only if they really feel the need of it.
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wow so well truth written that too in such detail.dnt worry writer u r not alone i am also part of this.the day my toddler was born i decided she is not leaving my home for marrg.the guy she chooses has to earn her n prove himself.this age old hypocrisy needs to be changed…n i shall do my bit.
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Life is all about the choices that we make. I’ve been married and divorced twice and now am happily single. I have a daughter and don’t want her to get married, and I don’t want her to not get married either. Because it’s not about what I want. It should be about what she wants when she grows up. Telling my daughter to not get married is as extreme as forcing her to get married.
There is nothing good or bad or right or wrong. These parameters differ for different people.
I’m not judging you for turning your daughter against marriage. Let’s not judge parents who want their kids to get married, either. Each person’s reality is different.
At the end, it is about the choices each person makes, irrespective of what their parents teach them.
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She is not forcing her daughter NOT to marry, but she says marry only for love.
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I wholeheartedly agree with you Aekta. Whether we ladies are in 20s, 30s, 40s or 70s. This is exactly I believe today that women are better off without men in all ways. All those old marriage traditions should be abolish. Laughed! Esp outside your family. Fathers and brothers are different coz they are your own they will feel for the same blood that runs in the veins. But not the strangers the outside men who has no blood ties with you.
They are the worse to be with. No doubt there are well raised men by well mothers in our world but they can change too due to bad influence and own family pressure over time. So bottom.line enjoy your life as a man does it. It’s time women does the same. Bravo to all daughters of our mother earth!
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Sorry to disagree, but I know of many brothers and fathers who are abusive, and not to be relied upon for representing your best interests.
With all due respect because of course there are brothers and fathers who exist what are supportive.
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Hi I accept you don’t need to get married to stay together. Tieing the knot or exchanging rings doesn’t make you live together for long. But you missing out on the basic concept on which marriage is built and your view is completely biased and I guess it should either be based on your own experience or stories you heard from your circle.
Marriage is not a tag for enslave a woman or men. Marriage is something where both men and women need to love, care, respect, support one another on good and bad times. Should there to lend a shoulder when your spouse feels tired and need someone to lean on to vent their sadness, frustration, disappointment.
To be simple whether you are in the bond of marriage or not, whether you are an educated, earning lots of money, have so much of fame, all doesn’t matter if you don’t have the basic quality of how to respect your partner, self centered, always put forth your need in front your partners interest without knowing tor understanding their situation, don’t know to adjust, compromise and don’t have a sense and understanding of when to bend down during a fight or argument. I can say simply you are not just making your life hell but also your spouse life too.
What I could understand from your post is it is completely biased and lack the basic pillars of any committed relationship adjustment, compromise and comprehend each other.
Women are superior but in the institute of marriage or any relationship it’s both men and women are equal. If you miss out on this look for only your wants and freedom it will be hell and you look like one of that kind who don’t respect what the opposite persons view and it’s completely biased on your own experience
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Perfect. I second you. I was about to reply on the same line… 👍🏼 👍🏼
Forget about the old traditions of Indian Marriages, but being in a live-in relationship (LIR) is to some extent advisable but not to be taken on a westernized way… There will arise many problems due to this and mainly in a country like India.
Bonding is our main culture, that will get affected due to these kind of relationships. I am neither forcing to get married nor for “not getting married”, be in LIR…
Choose the other partner whatever be it for, but choose wisely. LIR or Marriage is not a life just for intimacy, but there is a lufe beyond that.
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Yup I’d agree in parts. I’d say to my daughter you don’t have to get married. What you do is up to you, really. That’s the true power we can give our kids – the choice, the freedom to be and do what they want.
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Totally agree with you, couldn’t have put it better than that.. The best advice for the girls….
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I agree with everything except “ let the guy earn you every single day” that sounds like gender discrimination against men..
It implies that the guy is not to be earned by the woman but the woman is something valuable that the guy has to earn ..
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Says the anonymous person!
Go get a life!
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I agree with everything except “ let the guy earn you every single day” that sounds like gender discrimination against men.. (I stand for gender equality)
It implies that the guy is not to be earned by the woman but the woman is something valuable that the guy has to earn ..
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Some humor folks, so chill . Most humans are conformists, so wait up. The author appears to have a bias, yet some good and logical thoughts. In latter life, certain traits kick-in ( but there’s always spirituality and other escapism ). Stay single, mingle and whatnot but ffs don’t have kids without the kids educated opinion.
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Oh, I am another Indian mother who doesn’t want her daughters to marry. One is 5 and the other is just 2 months old and so does their father. Marriage within the Indian context has nothing to offer to the girls, it’s just saps out every dream, ambition and desire. Like my grandmother says,”When they talk about duties, there is the whole sky to sweep but when you talk about rights, there is not even an inch of ground for you.” Well, that sums up the opinion of the women of my house.
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I totally agree to this article and your reply.
We are celebrating international women day but are we anywhere close to that.?
Need to change our coning generation boy or girl and prepare their mindset from childhood that .marriage is one of the options not must to do thing in life. Tjere is no prince . You are prince and princess with your own ability.
The best part of the article is when she mentioned
I secretly long for the day when a whole generation of Indian women will reject this outmoded institution in favour of meaningful, equal relationships. That’s when entitled Indian men will change. That’s when society will evolve and we will
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i understand all of your sentiments… and do admire you for writing this up. Yes we indians do put a lot of pressure on our kids to get married. I do think being educated, financially and emotionally independent is a pre-requisite to any bonding. I don’t have a solution to this but I also fear for the future generations with this thinking as it means children without stable homes and essentially missing out on a mother or father’s care…
I just think for a good social structure marriage is a requirement but yes people . .. women or men should have a say and be free to decide what they feel is right or wrong and not have to accept it just because they have to keep the family together. i think a way of ensuring social justice somehow might be a better solution.
A good perspective though …
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Beautiful…as a woman’s with 2 sisters I totally agree…it’s hard to find a man who truly appreciates a woman for wanting and living life in her terms..so she shouldn’t settle for anything less than that
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“Men are useful for sex “what thought process is this?
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Factual?
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Love ur article… some men ( and some women ) will never really understand where this comes from.. but let’s be real with ourself .. marriage is like an avenue to advertise to the community that u are committed … can’t that be done without marriage ? So does that mean you do not trust ur self or ur partner ?
Unfortunately our generation is not the one one that will change .. but for the future… this is one you may want to think hard about …
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Love ur article… some men ( and some women ) will never really understand where this comes from.. but let’s be real with ourself .. marriage is like an avenue to advertise to the community that u are committed … can’t that be done without marriage ? So does that mean you do not trust ur self or ur partner ?
Unfortunately our generation is not the one one that will change .. but for the future… this is one you may want to think hard about …
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“Men can be amazing lovers, wonderful companions and they are very useful for sex. But you don’t need to marry them to enjoy them. Let the guy earn you every single day.”
– If we replace the word ‘men/ guy’ with ‘women/girl’, how would it sound ?
Pretty disgusting, right? Recently Hardik Pandya got into serious trouble for making comments very similar to this author , but about women; he got suspended
It is this author’s turn now, us it?
But I hope the author got the cheap publicity she was looking for through this article😊
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No offense but I think you completely missed the point about marriages. Marriages does involve sacrifice, compromise and adjustment not just from both sides. Marriage is a special relationship that is more powerful than a relationship with your closest friend or even your parents. You can have numerous friends, awesome co-workers and a long list of sexual partners, remember one thing without a husband or a wife with you (I.e someone who cares about you) you are always always always alone.
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Now imagine a guy saying women are great for sex but don’t need to marry them. The internet would be losing their shit. Seriously, if you really want equality and not bias, please judge both on equal platforms. Marriage is not only for sex. It’s how a family grows. I completely stand by your point that at times women have had to face the worst of domestic abuse, but so have men.
Rather than teaching your kids not to marry, teach them how to respect people, irrespective of gender, colour, caste or creed. The Indian family setting is a beautiful one which is envied by loads, let’s not ruin it by western ideologies. There’s nothing great that is achieved by not marrying someone.
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In this modern world , why are you preaching gender inequality . Marriages can be bad and good for different people so dont make a universal rule that marriages are bad . I agree on the part where you said marriage should not be mandatory but those who find their likable partner and want to marry should go for it.
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Brave and lucid writing. My take is you are expressing out metaphorically about marriages gone south….in reality it is going to be very hard for you to deny a wedding (I doubt you even intend to) once your daughter engages in a serious relationship (Don’t we all live for our daughters:-) ).
Humans live a finite life for happiness. Nothing signifies lack of happiness more than lack of freedom. And marriage brings lack of freedom, compromise/adjustments and even impediments (Remember Impedimenta, the wife of Vitalstatix in a comic strip:-) ) for both parties. But we still get married. In the olden days, primarily to have legal sex (of course availability was low anyways) and when sex dried up, then for support to each other….from man’s perspective. But in making those materialistic conclusions, we miss a huge point. The *possibility of* a deep emotional connection. The ease at which you can take each other for granted. *Altruism*: The enjoyment of “giving” or doing something for the other person etc. etc. You would say, all of these can be achieved in equal or greater degrees without marrying and I would say, yes, I agree. However, without a sword on the head (the binding) outcomes are different.
Yet, I do see that you have a point. The point that without such bindings and with enough time at hand, one can keep trying and finally find a soulmate and achieve all of the benefits minus drawbacks of a formal wedding (Sounds tiring:-))
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One question is enough to shut out this articles unfounded origins – What if the current gender roles are swapped. Guys own responsibilities at home, and women go to work. I can state that, with no doubt, still these feminists will be spewing out venom. These feminists would be acting the same as guys used to behave with girls decades earlier. These feminists may advocate against guys having a leisure time after the household chores while the girls ‘earn the bread’. Its all in your mind Miss feminist. Do what you love the most. No one stops you nowadays. But don’t screw other innocent minds with your dumb conclusions.
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Men can be amazing lovers, wonderful companions and they are very useful for sex. But you don’t need to marry them to enjoy them. Claim your freedom, respect and desires. Let the guy earn you every single day. Men are best behaved on their toes.
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Women can be amazing lovers, wonderful companions and they are very useful for sex. But you don’t need to marry them to enjoy them. Claim your freedom, respect and desires. Let the girl earn you every single day. Women are best behaved on their toes.
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What language are using ! Thats like sounds a person who looks at relation for sex
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It’s part of the article.
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Maam,
I agree to some of your points but Marriage is required for a person to share thoughts, live together and for love( not sex) . I believe you don’t have any boy and may it’s your insecurity in between the words that after marriage your girls will not be part of your family but of someone else family. I am a working married woman with kids , I don’t live in India but USA and I believe marriage is important.
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Rightly said.. if the author had a son along with a Daughter she would not have written this article or her views would have been different.
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U still want a woman to get one or more lovers. A man is still needed, but it doesn’t guarantee a relation without marriage will not have any issues, typical behaviour from man as u explained.
So in my opinion, fundamental values in today’s children needs to be changed.. so that respect human values.
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Being in a happy marriage, my views are different from yours. The most important thing that it has given me is a beautiful family. I am also trying that our future generation has lessor struggle, then we did or do, but it has nothing to do with my husband. If you want to see the change, then start it yourself and share your experience with us. I know a couple of women who are not married, but they did feel a need for the same in their 50’s. Be the change you want to see in the world. Good luck.
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Yes madam, Especially a gurl needs to stand up of her feet, career, proper income which leads to finacial stability, freedom, iindependent then if she find a suitable guy who can increase her happiness in life (not loose her current pleasure and happin) then get marry only.
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Aekta. I’m do saddened to see all men who have reponded to ur article have responded this way, and can feel how you must’ve felt. They have proved what you have talked about in your article. They can’t stand that a woman is teaching other women to be without them. I feel ashamed to be part of this filthy society. These men will die with the mental level they are at now. And they should.
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Not all men same..so as not all women same.. There are responses by men who agree with this article. So for few low mental level men or women you cannot point whole gender.. Don’t give feminist statements. Be gender neutral.. As this is time for equality. Just ignore what you don’t like and move on..
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Amazing write up… I am a man and would be proud to appreciate your writing mainly because its aligned with my thoughts…
You have mentioned about financial, emotional, physical and social needs …but according to me a person will start looking for a partner for three needs…emotional, logical and physical.
Logical makes much sense here because one need to meaningful conversation with his/her partner to spend time together,
Otherwise I agree mostly to all the points you mentioned. Glad I read this on a women’s day.
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Your article is all about lust. It seems you are eager for lust but you are unable to enjoy many lovers as you are married so you want your daughter to enjoy it. Ridiculous thoughts and writing.. There is a word for women who have lot of sexual partners.. I don’t recall.. Seems you want others to be that..
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Yes ma’am I second you on this view… Iam also a mother who will never tell.my daughter to get married… I know what you mean to say infact I have experienced the same… Cheerzzz to the new stronger wild women… ☺️
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Fun when people like this woman claim to be the face woman! “men are useful for sex”?! Come on! Tell me how different are you, do you and your kind of women have some different form of use? It is also very very funny that these so called horrible men are raised some ignorant, run away from responsibility, i want careless freedom kind of women like yourself! As a man who respects women and their thoughts would never want to be associated with such a materialistic, pseudo emotional, careless, short-sighted woman who basically wants to turn into those horrible men they deplore so much about, given the chance
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Fun when people like this woman claim to be the face woman! “men are useful for sex”?! Come on! Tell me how different are you, do you and your kind of women have some different form of use? It is also very very funny that these so called horrible men are raised some ignorant, run away from responsibility, i want careless freedom kind of women like yourself! As a man who respects women and their thoughts would never want to be associated with such a materialistic, pseudo emotional, careless, short-sighted woman who basically wants to turn into those horrible men they deplore so much about, given the chance!
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I love what you’ve written. Me being of the next generation completely agree that you don’t need a man to make you feel that you’re worthwhile. I’m 20 and have never had a boyfriend but I’ve got a great bunch of friends, of people who make me feel like I belong. That’s just what you need. It’s so much better than what some of my friends have with their boyfriends. I experience pure love and friendship everyday, I love myself, I’m confident in my abilities and have a vision. I guess all of this because I was raised by an equally strong-headed woman like the author here. We need such thoughts, only then would we be able to #smashthepatriarchy
Happy Women’s Day ❤️
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You’re just 20, and all your life experiences are from school and possibly college.. I’m sure you’d have a different view of life once you cross 30-35 and are in next phase of life, independent and alone.
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You are too young to say like above.
Wait for another 5 years and see how many of them (great bunch of friends) with you like today.
Many of us thinking that the western sexy culture is rightly suitable to our society. It is new, so attracts. Factual ugly relations can be watch from the Western socities. It is neither good nor bad. It is just one culture that suits to them Only. Dont need to think of it.
Author enjoying her married life (ofcourse second one) and saying not to marry. As per her, first one is arranged which is not rightly suitable to her. But second one is her choice and got good buddy. Her experience only tells us to get right choice. So ladies and gentlemen get a right choice.
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May i recommend blocking of such absurd viewpoint and writer must never be given even an inch on gutter. I am aghast to read where marital system drove our society since hundreds of years and protected pious relations. Why to allow exceptions as view and wrong recommendation from a deranged and moron useless writer whose name also is distorted, btw its ekta kapoor, not aeakakakakata
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It is because of people like you that men have a bad name.
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Rajeev, Ajay, whoever the hell you are – – it is because of people like you that men have a bad name.
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